Friday, August 12, 2005

A Diplomat and a Woman

What is difference between a diplomat and a woman?

If a diplomat says yes, he means maybe.
If he says maybe, he means no.
If he says no, one asks, "what kind of diplomat is that?"

If a woman says no, she means maybe.
If she says maybe, she means yes.
If she says yes, one asks, "what kind of woman is that?"

Wednesday, August 10, 2005

Honda @ 15,000 miles


I'm in the dealership at 6:30am this morning for a 7am appt. to have the Honda looked over. 15,000 miles since I picked it up on 2/28/05. I'm on track for 35,000 miles in the first year. Its really a great car. 2005 Accord with V6, leather, sunroof, did not spend the extra$$ for Hybrid, but now get 28 - 30 mpg regularly anyhow. The picture isn't my car, but I'll update when I get the camera. I spent the 1st few days feeling for the clutch since the feel was very much like Pat's 1995 BMW 528i. She said the same thing. Melissa drove it once and tried to beat all the cars on the highway. Christopher and Emma still haven't had a try yet. Zac drove it around town with me to get a movie 2 times and treated it real nice. Pat kept it for a week once when I brought the truck back to MA to help Melissa move. She drove it every day and left the beemer in the driveway. She says because it was way low on gas and mine wasn't, but I think she was getting some good inhales of that new car smell.

Tuesday, August 09, 2005

Plumber's Crack Show in Hague


Pat and I did a new Craft show in Hague (northern end of Lake George) this weekend. We did fairly well, but not too many soap sales, due to not too many kids. The soap sales covered the table fee, so we were happy. Sold 9 pictures which was quite good for a low traffic show. Hague is a really nice town and low traffic compared to the other end of the lake.

The interesting story here though was the jewelry vendor next to us doing a fine business selling toe rings. Many people were trying them on in a variety of poses and with assistance from friends and the vendor. The best (besides being with Pat all day) was a woman in her 20's with a fairly nice bod and very low riding jeans that just couldn't make up her mind.

Christopher Moves Back to the Bronx

Thursday night after work I picked up Melissa in Worcester and drove her home to her mother's house in CT. We had a nice conversation and a real easy drive. She is done painting for the summer and wanted to go home for 2 weeks to get some time with her dogs, friends and the beach. She is trying to set up some hours at the grocery store she worked in last summer for some last minute cash.

From there I drove to Manhattan to meet Christopher at his apartment in Lincoln Center on the Fordham Law School campus. I parked on 60th just east of the apartment. We went out after he finished the last laundry load for some pasta and a walk down to 38th and then back up through Times Square. Many people were out because it was so hot. There were flatbed truck stage rappers, many sketch artists and other assorted street vendors. We got back to the apartment at 1am aand I was so soaked in sweat I wished I had been smart enough to change into shorts before we left for dinner. I got ready to take a shower and Christopher informed me he only had 1 towel so I told him I would only use one side.

The next morning I went downstairs to get a prison style laundry basket (3'x4'x4' tall on wheels) they use to move people in and out of the apartment. We loaded it up and headed down to my car. We were pretty suprised when we saw a tow truck in front of my car, a NYC Traffic cop writing me a ticket and the apartment security man, Larry from Liberia, standing around it. I apologized for not being down earlier, but explained we had to wait for the cart. The cop said he wouldn't tow me but I'd get a summons. Larry said we could load right there so we got busy. Christopher eventually found the summons in envelope under the wiperblade and told me the charge was $95! I was upset but told him it was OK, let's just finish up and be happy he didn't tow us.

Christopher went up for the 2nd load alone so I could stay with the car which is when I talked to Larry and learned his name and some of the Liberia story. When Christopher returned, we loaded up, then he went back in to turn in his keys. I started the car, got the AC going to cool me off and had a good look at the ticket. It was $95 alright, but no VIN# was recorded and the cop had entered the wrong state, so I'm not going to pay since I don't think they can trace me.

I think because it was a nice father/son activity day and we were very polite about the parking issue and very appreciative that towing was not going to happen, the cop assumed we would read the ticket and take the pass he gave. I showed it to Christopher and he told me how happy he was because he felt really bad I had gotten the ticket. I told him he didn't feel half as bad as he would have felt when I presented the ticket to him to pay for me helping him move. Ha, Ha, ... I gave Larry $5 tip for "watching the car".

We got to the Bronx without issue. His apartment is off campus but part of Fordham residence so one of his roommates is the RA. Across the street are 2 deli groceries of Hispnic ownership. I convinced one of the clerks to only speak Spanish to Christopher to help him practice. The guy was pretty excited that Christopher was "college" and was now in the neighborhood. I talked to Christopher about not being afraid to meet the people in the neighborhood and not to stay behind the Fordham fence the whole year potentially missing out on meeting some great local people. Good luck on the MCAT and in school this year Christopher!!

Monday, August 08, 2005

Visited States




I have been to 38 of 74% of the states in this country, but until now I didn't realize how contiguous the missing states were. It seems like I can get them all with a long drive. One might ask, "What constitutes visiting a state?"
Airport stop - no,
Spending a night - yes,
Meeting at least one person from there - yes,
Other suggestions -??

create your own visited states map

Missed Appointment Ambush

I called Dr. Jay’s office on 8/3/05 to get a new 90 day prescription since my previous one had no more refills. I was informed by the office manager that since I had missed my physical appointment on 5/12/05, they would not refill my prescription until I paid them $200 for the missed appointment. He also informed me that on 5/12, he tried to bill the $200 to my credit card but it came back invalid (due to the fact that I changed credit card companies).

I told him I had completely forgotten about the appointment since I do not take an appointment card because for the last 3 years I have relied on the "day before" phone call reminders. In fact, no phone call was made for the "week before" blood work appointment or the physical at which time Dr. Jay likes to have the blood work results. So, in a sense, they had notice through my missed blood work appointment, I was not on track for the physical. Even though this reminder phone call is the informal, precedent behavior of the office, I was told, they do not have to make the phone calls and sometimes do not, so I still need to pay before they would refill the prescription.

I asked him why he didn't call me when the card didn't go through 83 days earlier so we could have straightened it out then or why he hadn't already sent me a bill requesting payment for the missing appointment so I could have already had this issue resolved. He said he hadn't had time to send out bills yet.

I asked him once more to fulfill my request for prescription at which time he asked if I was ignoring him about the payment. I told him no I had heard him but that I thought it was unfair of him and the office to have:

1. Not called to remind of blood work appt.
2. Not called to remind of physical appt.
3. Not made the connection between the first miss and realizing there may have been a miscommunication in progress.
4. Suspended the precedent "day before" phone call appointment reminder on which I had come to rely as my way of ensuring appointment attendance.
5. Not to have called to inform me they were billing my credit card for missing an appointment.
6. Not to have called to inform me the card they were trying to use did not work.
7. Not to have sent me a bill in the ensuing 83 day period so I would have been able to resolve the issue with them as I had done once in the past when I missed a similar appointment and promptly made payment prior to rescheduling.
8. Squandered 83 days of potential communication days to resolve the billing issue.
9. Waited for me to call with a legitimate medical need and then used my request for a medical need as an opportunity to ambush me regarding the billing issue.
10. Denied me medical care in the form of refusing to fulfill a refill prescription request and holding that activity ransom until the missed appointment was paid.

He responded:
1, 2, 3, 4. The office did not have to make the reminder phone call.
5. Office policy to bill the credit card of record for missed appointments.
6. No reason given.
7. Too busy, didn’t have time.
8, 9, 10. No response other than to request payment.

I called the insurance company and was informed that I should file a written grievance for denial of care.

I spoke briefly face to face with Dr. Jay and he said he did not have 5 minutes for me to talk about this issue and that I needed to call his office manager back to resolve it.

My questions to Dr. Jay:
1. does he know his staff has apparently suspended reminder phone calls?
2. does he know there is an 83 day old, unbilled receivable on his books?
3. does he know his office manager is “too busy” to send out bills?
4. does he know his office manager is using patient generated phone calls for legitimate medical need as his opportunity to discuss billing issues and, if not instantly satisfied, he is denying medical care?
5. does he know that for someone I trust enough to check my prostate annually that I am now very concerned about the intelligence of my choice?

On the 2nd phone call on 8/5/05:
I told the office manager I understand my medical care is ultimately my responsibility and in the future will take full charge of my own appointments and no longer rely on the reminder phone call. I told him I’m willing to pay the $200, but would pay by check and would not provide them with my new credit card. I told him I felt he had squandered 83 days of potential communication time with me and that he was ignoring my legitimate phone call for medical assistance and was using my phone call as an opportunity to ambush me regarding the missed appointment bill. I was told if I pay, he would issue a 30 day prescription which should give me time to find a new Doctor.

My question: Since when is the office manager the Doctor?

Any suggestions??